i have to jot down my theories before i forget because this is a shower thought birthed from returning to my caveman state of being naked and shivering in water. My theory is that autistic people target and persicute autistic people just as badly as non autistic people do, maybe even moreso. Many times ive been judged harshly by high functioning autistic women for not still adhering to social standards forced upon women since birth. many times ive had an autistic person get angry ive shown benign signs of autism while it was expected to accept their damaging behaviors. I feel like socializing with other autists, most expect you to perfectly follow social rules or be amazing at reading their own social cues and get quite aggressive when you dont. its almost as if theyre angry you behave "autistically" but expect you to allow them to. For example i recently had a falling out with another autistic person and just by chance they favored a non autistic person in the friendgroup yet coincidentally targeted me and another autistic person to take their agressive ire out on us when we didnt give him the social expectations he wanted or didnt want to dm because my social battery was drained. I think this happens because unlike for example wheelchair users, autistic people are so drastically different that it does not inspire any unification of those who have it. all wheelchair users have roughly the same struggles, its easy for everyone to rally together to fight for more accessability because the problems they have are roughly the same. autistic people are so different that there is no unity, also ive found that a lot of autists like predictability and other autists just do not provide that. we are unpredictable and strange, not always socially digestable as a person. I feel like people get used to being surrounded by neurotypicals to the point where they crave the interactions from them and dispise what other autistic people have to offer because its different. This is an issue that can be fixed with introspection and empathy, believing that every autist deserves the same respect from you that you get from non autistics. Rules for thee and not for me mentality is damaging and regressive.